Why Exposing Your Private Life to Virtual Strangers?
Being a regular user of beBee and LinkedIn, and occasionally Twitter, I often catch myself thinking about how I less and less understand the whole world of social media and people doing things the purpose of which is difficult to comprehend.
Maybe it is because I am firmly grounded in reality and never think of doing things on social media I wouldn't do in real life.
Before acting comes thinking.
One of such things that puzzle me is when people write about and share every intimate detail of their private life.
Private lives are more than ever exposed to the public eye, gradually losing the boundaries between the public and the private. The Internet and social media have introduced a revolution with incalculable consequences for all relationships including the most intimate, transforming not only an individual but also society. Somebody said that privacy became a lost art.
Have you ever asked yourself what it would look like if you stand on a street corner telling passers-by every possible detail of your life and showing them a handful of photos of yourself, your family and friends, no matter how bizarre?
Is there any difference between this act and sharing online the most intimate details of your life. I've been reading such posts even on this platform which included details about the author's sex life. Why would anybody care about it? Some things in one's life are much too personal to be made public.
We share details of our lives even when we comment on blogs. When I share some facts about my life by commenting, the reason is to foster bonding and a sense of community. But also, I have to feel comfortable with what I have written before pushing the comment button.
I stick firmly to this rule:
Never say anything in social media that you don’t want to see on a billboard with your name, logo, face, and phone number attached, with your client/boss/mother driving by.
Scott Stratten
What information about one's personal life make sense or have a purpose to share?
If I ever decide to share personal stories on social media, the first question would be how will it affect people around me who are involved in these stories. How will they accept the idea of writing about their health issues or any other intimate information, including mine?
Would my writing help or inspire someone else or I write for cathartic purposes to get the problem off my chest? Why would I talk about myself and expose my life to virtual strangers to feel better and not to people closest to me in real life? Is there a reason that something private and personal becomes public?
I would also ask myself, do I share meaningful information? Although, what is meaningful for me doesn't have to be for someone else.
We are owners of our stories but not every story merit sharing.
It is not my intention to moralise or tell others what to do. It is a personal choice. These are just my thoughts and understanding the purpose of exposing private life on social media. I have a lot to figure out why people tell such stories online.
To me, there is always a line between public and private. I am voicing my private life, but not on social media.
What is your answer to the question written in bold?
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Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #41
Not necessarily, Praveen. Me first. Introverts are not introspective by default. I feel lost in these "altered ego" stuff. :-))
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #40
Yes, I agree with you Praveen. I am not a person who bosses around and tells people how they should behave. :-)) Am just thinking aloud and asking myself unanswerable questions regarding human's nature. beBee, although a small community, is an excellent platform for trying to understand the psychology of social media. I am an introvert too, but of a different kind because I don't find a social network platform as a conducive medium for voicing private life issues. :)
Harvey Lloyd
prije 5 godina #39
Sorry for a late reply as i missed the little bell ringing. Our box of rocks is filled with each of the emotional stations you mention. The real question is what rock do we pick up "automatically" and without any thought. I know that for me in sales meeting a customer that had a very discernible set of rocks in the box, made my life really easy. If the rock was pride or envy i could use this within the sale. The more challenging customers thought outside their box of rocks. I enjoyed these customers more. Each of us was challenged in reaching win-win. To the degree that the box of rocks are shown repeatedly we can also discern that the box will always be present in going forward. Do i want to continue with one that cant get out of their own box of rocks and explore change? From a leadership perspective this is a very real decision that most don't realize is forming. Bad leaders don't seem to get that good team members are also going through the same process. By using the box rocks terminology it helps in communicating in real time with folks you lead. I can ask what rock has been lifted and shown? Urging team members to grow outside the box without fear. The rocks are their own and can be thrown at anytime. Why not explore without them for a while and see what you see. If fear grabs you start throwing, but to the extent courage exists, explore.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #38
Thanks Louise, and I apologise for the late response. I like your analogy with Leatherwood honey from Tasmania. Although we don't like every variety of honey, we can learn to appreciate it (I am talking about pure honey - not fake).
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #37
Thanks Loise, and I apologise for the late response. I like your analogy with Leatherwood honey from Tasmania. Although we don't like every variety of honey, we can learn to appreciate it (I am talking about pure honey - not fake).
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #36
Thanks Loise, and I apologise for the late response. I like your analogy with Leatherwood honey from Tasmania.
Louise Smith
prije 5 godina #35
Louise Smith
prije 5 godina #34
This made me laugh "I can't even understand why people do some stuff in real life. "
Louise Smith
prije 5 godina #33
Chris \ud83d\udc1dR Guest You might be surprised at the age range of people who are upset by Social Media comments &/or bullying The oldest person I counsel for this is 75yo
Louise Smith
prije 5 godina #32
This is something I struggle with when counselling every day
Louise Smith
prije 5 godina #31
Harvey Lloyd "we each have our box of rocks that represent who we are" in general terms what are each these rocks called ? Success? Pride? Happiness? Illness? or "Harvey" "Louise" ? Just curious as this sounds like a useful counselling metaphor
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #30
I also feel the same, Franci. It seems like beBee is getting out of lethargy. :)
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #29
Thanks Claire L Cardwell for your kind words and engagement with my posts. You are a driving force of this platform, stirring honeypots of many Bees to get old posts back to the top, sharing and commenting. You're the best candidate to be featured on the next Hive Talk by Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #28
I am glad that someone's personal story helped you, my friend. Sharing one's experience when facing hardships with an honest intention to help others and sharing some trivial intimate details of one's private life are two different things. Then again, what trivial means to me doesn't have to mean for someone else.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #27
There is a lot to figure out why people doing such things on social media. I can't even understand why people do some stuff in real life. The virtual world of social media sometimes reveals a hidden part of our personality.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #26
Thank you, Dilma for camaraderie. :)
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #25
Sadly but true.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #24
Indeed, very relevant for our youngsters. What surprises me is that adults who understand all about of the privacy-invasiveness on the internet, overshare information about their personal life.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #23
Thanks, Debesh. Although I don't write about facing the hardship, I love reading such stories with an honest intention to help others.
Jerry Fletcher
prije 6 godina #22
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #21
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #20
Ken, once it was Santa Claus now is Big Brother Google. :) Please read my response #22. Thanks for commenting.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #19
Yes Ken, because of Big Brother Google. Please read my response #22. Thanks for commenting. :)
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #18
We are all aware that there is no privacy on the Internet, once we became the participants in the social media world. But it is about the level of privacy we maintain by dosing information of our personal life. This morning when I opened Google, I noticed that Google boot wishes me a Happy Birthday with a special doodle!! Every information we ever put online is in many databases throughout the web space.
Ken Boddie
prije 6 godina #17
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #16
Kevin, thanks for reminding us of the difference between being personable and being personal. As you said, some see the internet as the personal therapy. But some topics of a personal nature don't need to be discussed on social media. Also, oversharing makes me turn off.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #15
Reasonable comment, as always, Franci. It's so important to set boundaries.
Mohammed Abdul Jawad
prije 6 godina #14
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #13
Powerful comment, Debasish! This is how I sometimes see a virtual world of social media - as a delusional and a sort of phantasy when we are actors in our chimerical stories.
Debesh Choudhury
prije 6 godina #12
CityVP Manjit
prije 6 godina #11
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #10
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #9
Thanks, Ali. That is what I often asked myself while reading some stories or updates - what is added value to it. And I do not pretend to be a Puritan. Just saying that one can write about his/her personal life while protecting intimate details of relationships or certain situations.
Phil Friedman
prije 6 godina #8
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #7
Harvey, you said it all with your last thought: "The public domain is a very brutal arena." I see many of my posts on beBee as some kind of personal stories because I share my thoughts and feelings and always try being honest with my words.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #6
I pushed replay without finished my response. :) I am more for cathartic discharge by talking than writing. I have a narrow circle of my closest friends for voicing our personal stories and dilemmas. Thanks, Pascal, as always, for a good comment.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #5
I am very cautious about sharing information on my family and my private life. As I said, it's a personal choice, and it's how I behave online. :)
Debasish Majumder
prije 6 godina #4
Ali Anani
prije 6 godina #3
Harvey Lloyd
prije 6 godina #2
Pascal Derrien
prije 6 godina #1