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When to End Replying to Someone's Comments?

When to End Replying to Someone's Comments?

An article I read the other day about when we should end a conversation prompted me to put some words on the screen about a similar subject - when to end replying to someone's comments.

Many posts have been written about commenting and responding to comments, but I always ask myself when I should end a two-person comment thread.

Many times we mistakenly think the other person wants to continue a conversation, but, actually, he/she only feels obligated to respond. Fortunately, there are times when both commenters want to continue their conversation and enjoy participating in a long thread.

But what to do when receiving a rude and offensive comment from a person with whom you interact regularly. Should you address such a comment or ignore it? 

At first, I feel unpleasantly surprised. After that initial reaction, I often try to find an explanation for such behaviour. Perhaps that person had a bad day or feeling bad about something in his/her own life, and their comment has nothing to do with me. In my experience, it is always best to discuss such things in private, without needing to make it public. I learned a lesson after I once made a difficult discussion public for everyone to see. Never again!

Comments are, actually, public dialogue. Many of us still have to master the art of dialogue and when to end a conversation. My advice is to avoid getting emotional. I learned to take a pause and review my comments and responses before pressing the Reply button. Still fail sometimes. :) 

What about you? 



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Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

6 months ago #69

Milos Djukic, thank you for sharing, dear friend.

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #68

#67
Thanks (that's my last word)

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #67

#66
You'll get both, John. I'm not sure who is more desperate here, 😁

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #66

The importance of when and how a conversation ends can depend on how desperate someone wants to have the last word. So Lada do i get a repy or a like?

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #65

#64
Well said, David. When you have nothing more to add to the conversation, then you should stop replying. I usually finish a dialogue by liking the last comment. :)

David Worley Fannie Mae

David Worley Fannie Mae

7 months ago #64

I feel like it's more appropriate to end the conversation when you feel that you have nothing left to add to it.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #63

#61
Thank you, Proma! I'm a group member and will comment on LI. I agree with you about hateful comments. But many times, it is about people making rude and tactless remarks that I wouldn't call hateful or malicious. We all have bad days, but you shouldn't vent your frustration through the keyboard. On many forums, there is no way to go back and clean what's been written. The words are here to stay. That's why it's important to take a pause and review comments and responses before pressing the Reply button.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

7 months ago #62

#49
Louise Smith In a study class we are talking about adjectives and how they compartmentalize our thinking. You use the word trol as an identifier. A troll is a person who attacks my thoughts. The key word is attack. If we could place a meter on each person i think we would find some who label trolls very earlier in comment and those that label very late. I have found the discussions enlightening as i review my own measuring system with adjectives i have assigned people. Food for thought. I always enjoy your thoughts they do press me at times but without pressing there is no growth.

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal

7 months ago #61

Loved the thought behind the buzz, Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic. While sometimes I feel it's best to take things to the messenger and discuss it privately, at other times I feel it is necessary to get the message across, without sounding rude, so that others in my network, too, understand that I will not tolerate hateful comments. Earlier I used to feel obligated to keep responding, but now I stop and say a mental thank you, grateful one, and close it there. After all, someone taking the time to converse with me over my content is indeed worth a "from the heart" thank you. :) Sharing your post on the beBee buzz group. I hope you're on the group so I can tag you!

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #60

#58
🙂

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #59

#53
Louise Smith Louise, I opened the links to your posts and remembered all the dear Bees who are no longer on beBee. Ali Anani and many others are very active on LinkedIn and visit this platform very rarely or not at all. I like your posts, and I'll repeat the words from the post about GRUMBLEPOT, you are good at cracking jokes and trading banter to build connections with other people. I agree with you: humour is a serious business, and few are good at it.

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #58

#56
It must have been a joke about him being your husband ! Yes Licitar Hearts is unforgettable

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #57

#56
A favourite of mine too, Lada. 🤗

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #56

#54
Glad to see you again here, Louise. :) My husband is not in the pic of my post IRONING IS A MAN'S JOB, TOO! It is 𝗠𝗶𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗲𝗹 𝗔𝘂𝗺𝗼𝗰𝗸, an author of the mentioned article: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-i-iron-my-own-shirts-michael-aumock I'm glad you remember my post about Licitar Hearts. It's one of my favourites too. :)

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #55

#51
thanks for the thumbs up on my posts, Louise Smith

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #54

2. I like humour so that's why Ken Boddie & I get along I also tried to write about Australia so non- Aussies would gain some insight into my culture And I have favourite posts like one of your posts Lada 🏡 Prkic https://www.bebee.com/producer/@lada-prkic/licitars-hearts-made-of-honey Jun 11, 2016 and the one about IRONING IS A MAN'S JOB, TOO! How many of you male beBee bees do the ironing? Sep 25, 2017 with pic of your husband ! Now days I have so many Psyc reports to write that I don't have time to write on beBee I look forward to retiring to have time again I really value the friends I have from beBee all around the world Before COVID 19, I was thinking of travelling around the world to visit as many of you as I could ....

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #53

1. Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic I have always had many more views/likes on beBee as opposed to linked in But in the early days we made good friends regardless of our differences I wrote posts specifically about or in response to these friends like https://www.bebee.com/produceth-state-of-queensland-australia/keyed-out-problems-of-paul-pablo-croubalian-revisited https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-f-queensland-australia/with-a-little-help-from-my-friends https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/how-do-i-deal-with-situations-out-of-my-comfort-zone-with-up-crab-meat https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/why-you-should-not-read-ali-anani-s-buzzes https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/you-ve-been-spam-ed https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/just-for-grumblepot https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/50-answers-that-set-my-mind-free https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/another-bee-s-eye-view-of-emergence-evolution https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland-australia/synchronicity-australian-time https://www.bebee.com/content/1771031/1515020

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #52

#44
I find young things argue or "misunderstand" for the sake of it or sometimes think they can debate when they don't understand the first premise so self entitled they can't walk in another's shoes

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #51

#9
I don't look on beeBee as much as I used to Ken Boddie but I think we resonate well Common Aussie humour maybe I always love your posts

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #50

#4
Like @Harvey Lloyd I never seem to have a problem communicating with you Pascal Derrien I don't have to 2nd guess it's just a natural progression I would never have guessed that you feel you are better at writing than responding

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

7 months ago #49

#3
I never seem to have a problem communicating with you Harvey Lloyd I don't have to 2nd guess it's just a natural progression But I do have trouble with trolls

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

I think people are "Covid-tired". Tired of being cooped up; tired of being bored; tired of being out of work, and tired of reading and hearing about it. Plus, it seems Covid has become a scape goat and bears the blame for anything and everything. Same with politics, which seem to bring out the worst in people. I got rid of Instagram and Twitter. Instagram was useless to me and Twitter got caught up in a political mess. I started a new Twitter account and follow only writers, poets, WordPress followers and nice people I know. So far, the experience has been a pleasant one. LinkedIn depends on what one wants to read and I avoid anything on Covid, vaccines, and politics. The same with beBee, I don't read what I don't want to read. These are stressful times, especially in the US, and having to deal with constant negativity is disheartening.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #47

#44
I'm not much on other social media platforms. I visit LinkedIn occasionally. Facebook is a toxic place, but professional Facebook groups are a different story. I was a member of some of them, and I had only positive experiences.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #46

#44
It would be a great research topic, a propensity for elevated pandemic related rudeness on SM. Maybe there's already such a study. :) I agree with the words of John Rylance. beBee is not an exception but to a much lesser extent. I would venture to say that here on this platform is more about people with short fuses.

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #45

What the virus has done is slowly raise our Frustration at not being able to combat it. Boredom with not being able to socialise, meet with friends and families, go shopping, visit hairdressers etc. Culminating, for many in Anger, and looking for targets at which to vent their intolerance of restrictions the virus has forced on them.

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #44

#42
#43 I'm not so sure, Lada and Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, that I have found SM rudeness to be particularly more prevalent, certainly here on beBee, during these COVID times and the implicit possible excuse of 'lock-down-SM-mania'. Without naming names, there have been some historic and infamous prolonged beBee 'dummy spits' particularly back in the earlier days, well before the Carona Crisis. My own beBee experience (and that is only my opinion, of course) suggests that things have settled down a bit here. By comparison, however, I belong to various groups on Facebook and that's where I find that the sparks tend to fly. While I find the comments on artistic or professional Facebook groups generally well behaved, being complimentary of each other's descriptions and photos (and in particular some amazingly unique and special ones), by comparison, some of the local Queensland and Aussie news chat rooms are occasionally and unusually scathing of some participants' queries for assistance and local information. Again, however, I'm not so sure that this propensity for rudeness (sometimes tending towards slander) has particularly increased during COVID times, but is perhaps more reflective of the ongoing variety of personalities and their varying communication skills on some Facebook groups. Here in Queensland, however, we've been relatively pandemic fortunate, with only a few lock-downs of short duration, and so perhaps 'lock-down-SM-mania' has been less prevalent than elsewhere and indeed, more general pandemic related rudeness may be much rarer than elsewhere? I wonder if anyone has found a propensity for elevated pandemic related rudeness on other SM platforms such as Twitter or Instagram?

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #43

#42
Great comment, Franci! I noticed a significant increase in rudeness, incivility and toxicity, in general, on social media in these Covid times. On this platform too, and from people with whom I interacted often! It is not just about Covid topics but also many others. Some people simply don't accept opinions different from theirs but consider it as a personal attack. This time of crisis in which we live greatly affects the level of tolerance.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

Seems to be ongoing that some feel being rude while behind their computer screen is ok but wouldn't think of acting that way face-to-face. For me, personally, I find it best to ignore disrespectful comments because the intent can be of a vicious nature rather than to politely disagree. Posts that garner a long thread of comments are great as long as those in the discussion are willing to continue. I feel if I don't have anything constructive to add to a discussion, then I move on. I spend a lot of time on WordPress and with all of the Covid and political hoopla going on, I started to see a trend of hatefulness in articles, and even poetry. I thought to myself, negativity doesn't help anything or anyone so I moved on or unfollowed some of the haters, whether or not I understood their views. If one can't say something nice, then don't say it all.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

7 months ago #41

#40
Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic Warm welcome Lada .. it may be both .. my brothers are doing some research on "roots" I will share my dad LOVED Nikola Tesla .. who said: "I am equally proud of my Serbian origin and my Croatian fatherland" IMHO: Tesla was a brilliant man .. in many ways robbed of his inventions .. but no one could steal his genius.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #40

#39
Thank you, Fay, for sharing as a gesture of appreciation and kindness (Ken's words). I thought you are of Slovenian origin. I am glad there is a Croatian lineage in your family. :) -Drago mi je upoznati osobu hrvatskih korijena na beBee. Ima nas tako malo. :)

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

7 months ago #39

#39
Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic "It would be good to know how many of the 'viewers' actually read the post. 🤔 .. That stat dear bee-friend is known only by God ;~) I LOVE your "saying" .. it is truth .. perhaps it resonated .. because in my family history there is Croatian lineage ;~) I and have placed it in my "pearl-holder" for future reference "Zrno po zrno pogača, kamen po kamen palača." The literal translation: grain by grain - bread, stone by stone - palace. "Hvala vam puno" I share your wisdom .. hoping more read & add to the conversation

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #38

#36
You're right, Ken, it is still a young post. Nevertheless, I'm glad it attracted much engagement and ongoing (not forced) conversation. :)

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #37

#35
Ken, we have a saying in Croatian, which is equivalent to the English phrase "Many a mickle makes a muckle." It is, "Zrno po zrno pogača, kamen po kamen palača." The literal translation: grain by grain - bread, stone by stone - palace.

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #36

#34
Yes, Lada, but this is still a young post with only 300 views at the moment. I predict (based on usual beBee growth behaviour) that the number of views will greatly increase in the next few days, while the number of commenters will only slightly increase, if at all, thus bringing ratios back closer to your average. But, there again, this post could be “the exception that proves the rule.” 🤗

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #35

#33
You’re a bit off target with your borrowed Scots saying, John Rylance. In the NE of Scotland, where I was dragged up, the saying, in Broad Scots or Doric dialect, is actually “mony a mickle maks a muckle.” In effect this means if you have enough small things (mickle), you’ll eventually have a large thing (muckle). Not dissimilar to “Take care of the pennies and the pounds will take care of themselves.” Do you have any similar Croatian sayings, Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic?

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #34

Ken Boddie, the stats for this post (so far) are very interesting. The ratio of comments to views is 10%, and the ratio of commenters to views is 3%. Best stats so far! 😁 It would be good to know how many of the 'viewers' actually read the post. 🤔

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #33

#27
many a mickle makes a muckle is an old Scottish phrase. Mickle and muckle are synonyms meaning a large quantity.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #32

#30
Thanks, Jerry. It's never too late to join the party. :)

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #31

#29
Thank you, Fay. I couldn't agree more about wisdom. It is required more than anything else with text-based only interaction on social media. Have a great weekend.

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

7 months ago #30

Sorry to be so late to the party, Lada but I agree with a great deal of what has been said here. And so it goes.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

7 months ago #29

Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic Interesting & Unique topic Lada .. I am amazed looking back at some of those "older" posts .. at the level of comments (like 300) .. I used to enjoy bantering with "my dear Professor" Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee to reach 100 .. and was delighted to the 100th person ;~) .. I do hope for his return here I agree with what you say: if "unpleasantly surprised" .. it may hinge on how "unpleasant" "discuss such things in private, without needing to make it public" Sometimes just say "ouch" .. and turn the page Wisdom is required

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

7 months ago #28

Ken Boddie So important what you mention dear "Bard" "The act of sharing someone else’s post is often underrated as a gesture of appreciation and kindness." Plus: Sharing the author’s post exposes it to more bees and hives, and hence potentially to more comments .. As a new-bee I was not mindful .. of sharing .. now I am And I'm ever-grateful for multiplied sweet shares .. I have been received Perhaps uniquely .. I also share posts that I do not agree with .. while (graciously) making an explanation of why (well graciously is my intent) Disagree without being disagreeable. Also I usually say with brevity why I shared the post: interesting .. clever .. poetic .. informative .. or polar-opposite to my way of thinking

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

7 months ago #27

#26
John Rylance I might borrow your "muckle" John .. so much more expressive than a mere "thanks" ;~)

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #26

#25
Thanks many a mickle makes a muckle as they say.

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #25

#23
For succinctness read thriftiness, John Rylance and remember that I was born in Scotland. 😂

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #24

#22
I must admit it was LinkedIn I was thinking of when I wrote the comment. Thank You is a phrase that is either over or under used in conversations. Used sparingly it is a powerful reinforcer and encourager.

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #23

#19
To me all Verbosers believe their words have beauty, whereas the true beauty is in the eye of the verbosees. Just the beauty in my mind/eye is in the succinctness of many of your quotes.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #22

#15
Great remark about commenting, John. You reminded me of some posts on LinkedIn, where almost all the comments were by the author who thanked everyone who liked the post! The whole comment thread consisted of comments such as, "Thank you (XY) for liking my post."

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #21

#18
The ratio to the number of commenters, instead of comments, would be at least half as small because at least half of those comments are mine.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #20

#19
😂🤣

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #19

#17
I guess, Lada, that “Beauty is in the eye of the verboser”??? 😂🤣😂

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #18

#16
Wow, Lada!!! Your stats are really impressive. I guess you’ll agree it was well worth taking the time to analyse your data. The 1% approx of comments to views, however, proves, as most of us suspect, that vast majority of readers ‘walk on by’ and do not wish to engage. If we were to amend this ratio to number of commenters (instead of comments) vs views, then the percentage would be even lower. 🤔

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #17

#14
Is There Beauty In Verbosity? :)

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #16

#14
You intrigued me with the stats issue. Since I wrote only 33 posts in less than 5 years, I was able to calculate some stats for my posts. Here are some stats which includes a doubtful metric such as views: ► 33 posts ► 155,000 views in total ► 4,700 - the average number of views per post ► 26,400 - the highest number of views (!) ► 55 - the average number of comments per post ► 137 - the highest number of comments ► 1.2% - the average ratio of comments to views ► 4.0% - the highest ratio of comments to views Most of my posts, if not all, were shared by Javier. The highest number of views is on "Is There Beauty on Verbosity?" Who knows why views skyrocketed.

John Rylance

John Rylance

7 months ago #15

A while ago one used to see in posts which had had generated numerous comments the originator post a blanket thank you to all who had read commented on the post, it effectively brought to an end the exchanges. To my mind to a satisfactory conclusion to the discussion.

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #14

#11
Reading your post again, Lada, and some of the comments, it occurs to me that the act of sharing someone else’s post is often underrated as a gesture of appreciation and kindness. Sharing the author’s post exposes it to more bees and hives, and hence potentially to more comments. In reality, however, there are probably only a few ‘hard core’ diehards who actually comment, rather than just read and perhaps tick ‘relevant’. For example, I notice that when Javier \ud83d\udc1d CR shares one of my posts, the ‘views’ greatly increase and I get a few more ‘relevants’ from mostly Spanish bees who I don’t know, but I doubt if the comments these days are affected by these Javier shares. Nevertheless I am always grateful for the increased exposure. 🤗 It would be interesting to see the stats on number of comments vs number of views across the board, and for various subjects or even individual bees. 🤔

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #13

#10
Interesting take, Lada, but I must admit that I rarely read the comments of others before initially commenting on a post myself. That way my initial comment is mine and not affected by the opinions of others. There are exceptions to my self imposed rule, however.

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #12

#10
Interesting take, Lada, but I must admit that I rarely read the comments of others before commenting on a post myself. That way my comment is mine and not affected by the opinions of others. There are exceptions to my self imposed rule, however.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #11

#9
Thank you, as always, for commenting and sharing, Ken. :) We often mention the old days on beBee, but it was only about four years ago when Elvis was still in the building. :) Not so long ago. You're one of those who mastered the art of dialogue and prolonged conversation and whose witty comments always cheer me up. I tried a lot of times to prolong a conversation with some commenters who don't visit beBee regularly but sometimes commented on my posts. But most of them didn't respond. I didn't even know if they had read my response. They commented just once and then disappeared. You're right, many times the commenter is the one who ends a conversation.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #10

#3
Harvey, I agree that comments can get awkwardly long and repetitive in theme. Many who participate in a comment thread don't take the time to read what others have commented, so they repeat themselves. It was understandable in long threads we used to see on beBee a few years ago. Some posts had more than 300 comments! But we can see that in threads with only several comments. Comments repetitive in theme generate repetitive responses that aren't dialogues. But it takes two to tango, so for dialogue to work, you need an engaging and thoughtful commenter - such as you, Harvey. :) Just as an author needs to know when to end replying to comments, he/she also needs to know how to achieve a continuing dialogue with engaged commenters. I must confess I'm still not one of them.

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

7 months ago #9

So many authors on beBee these days, Lada, either don’t reply to comments, or else take so many days, if not weeks, to reply, that repeat comments and prolonged conversations are “rarer than a hen’s teeth”. As you’ve already stated, time zones can also be a conversation stifler. As for myself, as an author, I often attempt to keep the conversation going but find it usually the commenter who stops contributing, rather than me. Exceptions for me are when commenters bring up religion or US politics, which tend to go down like a lead balloon with me. Gone are the days when prolonged wit and banter went back and forth from participating bees in China, India, South Africa and even Oz. These similar time zone buddies have all now either jumped ship or, like Elvis, left the building. 🙁

Greg Rolfe

Greg Rolfe

7 months ago #8

#3
A great tool that produces good results when used consistently. Never thought of using it in regards to comments. Interesting.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #7

#5
Thank you, Paul. I'm blushing. 😊 At first, it was written as a short buzz, but when I've hit 200 words, I published it on Producer. At least, it can be distributed through the hives.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #6

#4
Humour is the best remedy for many things in life. :) As for commenting, I very rarely participate in a long comment thread with one person. The reason is that most of my fellow Bees live in a different time zone, and maintaining a continuing dialogue that way, no matter how much I enjoy the conversation, is very hard. Thank you for commenting and sharing. :)

Paul Walters

Paul Walters

7 months ago #5

Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic Brief and to the point. As always you nailed the subject brilliantly...thank you

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

7 months ago #4

I am not great at commenting in general funnily enough I am better (says he ) at writing posts. Most platforms develop their own etiquette and I guess if the line is crossed the private message channel is an option to clear the air. It has never really happened but that's what I would probably do but. That said I had close calls with some who have been borderline I have adopted a humorous angle to my answer other wise I just ignore

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

7 months ago #3

Inside public dialogue it is difficult to move a relationship forward quickly. I often think that way to many assumptions are made as we read something someone has written. The guiding light IMHO is respect. The writer has written something that probably has many hours of background that does not get displayed in the writing. If i am to comment i must get some understanding of the backdrop and context within the commenting process. I must say that comments can get awkwardly long and repetitive in theme. In considering what one is to do within negative/lengthy dialogues. We are in the behaviour management business. Behaviours that we do not want to see are placed on extinction. We ignore these behaviours. But we also celebrate the behaviours we do want. Translating this into commenting. We should ignore the comments that represents a behaviour we don't want to see and celebrate the comments that are on point. Like, respond and encourage the thoughts that meet the objective of the post, while ignoring and causing extinction of the ones that dont.

Lada 🏡 Prkic

Lada 🏡 Prkic

7 months ago #2

#1
Thanks, Mohammed. You definitely mastered the art of saying more in fewer words. :)

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

7 months ago #1

Rather than replying to someone's rude remarks, perhaps, it's proper to give precepts in private because this way the other person may soften and feel sorry. Btw, insightful post that, in brevity, reminds us about simple communication etiquettes.

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